Psychotherapist

Therapist to New York's Elite

Mary Pender Greene

Testimonials: Clients Share Their Experiences

Clients who use Mary's services -- therapy, workshops, training, coaching, media or institutions -- not only benefit, but also enjoy the overall experience. They often report meaningful changes in their relationships, an accelerated professional development, or an organizational shift. They all report gaining a new perspective. Participants are elated about their gains, and many lives have changed for the better as a result of working with Mary.

Testimonial: Individual Therapy

A bit less than a year ago, following a series of unfortunate events in my life, I had reached a really low point. Emotionally, mentally and physically drained, I knew that I needed to find the strength to continue living, and out of sheer desperation, I finally reached out to Mary. It was the best decision I ever made.
Over the past 10 months, Mary has helped me experience growth that for me was unimaginable. In a loving and compassionate manner, she has helped me to identify both the destructive behavior patterns that led to my subsequent bouts of depression as well as the traumatic events and family history that contributed to the creation of these destructive patterns. Most importantly, Mary has taught me how to change these destructive patterns and replace them with positive, healthy, self-affirming ones. In less than a year, Mary has positively influenced almost every aspect of my life.
I am learning to identify and arrest addictive behaviors, replace negative thought patterns with positive self-talk and eliminate unhealthy behaviors and toxic people from my life. I am practicing self-love and becoming my “best self.” As a result, my marriage and family relationships have improved and my career continues to blossom. I have lost over 45 pounds and I am finally learning what it means to be truly happy, healthy and whole -- mind, body and spirit. I am learning to clearly identify my goals and attain them. I totally attribute my growth to working with Mary.
There is an old saying: “The sick mind doesn’t know that it’s sick.” Whether it is in your personal or professional life, Mary’s incredible talent lies in her ability to assist you with identifying (and sometimes just acknowledging) the source of your pain or whatever it is that may be holding you back. More importantly, she accompanies you on the path of self-healing, and provides the tools necessary to complete the journey. That is Mary’s gift to her clients. It is a gift that is priceless. I thank God every day for His gift of Mary Pender Greene.
-- Grateful in New York

Testimonial: Individual Therapy

There are people who touch our lives at certain points on our life’s journey. We are forever changed and forever grateful for having met them and for the growth they have helped us to achieve.
Mary Pender Greene is one such person in my life. A mutual friend introduced me to Mary during a time of deep personal crisis and turmoil. I knew I wanted to chart a new path in my life’s journey, but I did not know how to do that. I did not have the emotional arsenal, nor did I understand my patterns and the process of how to change my responses to my circumstances. This is where Mary’s gift lies. She helps one develop an arsenal to deal with the joys, the sorrows, relationships and everyday challenges that one faces in life. In the more than two years that I have worked with Mary, I have come to value and appreciate her expertise, insight, empathy and true dedication to the mental health profession. She tells it like it is when, and sometimes before, you are ready to hear it. Mary has been extremely valuable in helping me identify and build on my strengths. With her support, I have also learned how to target areas to work on allowing for more personal growth.
Mary is an integral part of my team that supports me in my quest for a sound and healthy mind, body and spirit. I personally believe the cocktail for creating an emotionally healthy and successful life is maintaining 1) your balance, 2) gratitude for your blessings and 3) openness to new beginnings. I recommend Mary without reservation, as she has been a true blessing in my life, helping me to maintain my balance and embrace my new beginnings.
Grateful in the Garden State

Testimonial: Individual Therapy

When I met Mary, I was in a very toxic and rather abusive relationship with a woman which eroded much of my confidence and self image. She helped me to see how many events in my life had brought me to that place, as well as allowing me to discover a much stronger, confident and self-loving person within myself.
I have been fortunate to work with her for several years now and she has helped me become the best ME I can. She always senses when I may be stumbling on my path of growth, weighed down by self-imposed negativity, and offers kind and gentle insights that are beacons of light in one's dark thoughts. She always knows exactly the right questions to ask, or offer the tools I need, so that I may see the positive steps that I need to take, which are often before me. No matter how I may have felt upon entering her office, I ALWAYS feel ten times better when I leave.
I truly feel that so much of the success in my personal and business life has come from her helping me to see and realize the greatness of who I am. I could never thank her enough.
R.B. – New Jersey

Testimonial: Couples Therapy

My wife and I were two people who loved each other deeply, but could not have been more different from each other. As I reflect on our lives, I must say I owe a large part of the happiness we’re experiencing to encountering Mary Pender Greene. I met her when my wife dragged me in to see her. I only went along to state my case and thought I would be told that I was completely wrong and the cause of our martial unhappiness. Instead I found an insightful masterful relationship counselor who was sensitive to my earnest, though awkward and miss communicated efforts to strengthen our family. Mary Pender Greene's calming voice taught us to use our differences to enhance our life experiences.
Without Mary I doubt my marriage would have held together. With her help we were able to build a truly loving, trusting, intimate and fun relationship. As a result, I believe our son grew up in a loving family and has also been able to meet and marry a sane and loving partner.
Sometimes you can't do it alone.
W. -U.S.A.

Testimonial: Couples Workshop

Mary's relationship class has enhanced my marriage by helping me understand my wife more and helping us grow closer. Now I know that a relationship expert can fine tune a marriage by pointing out issues that need to be addressed. Some examples were: 1) What to do if your partner doesn't think the class is important? 2) How to fight fairly? 3) Take a week long trip once a year by yourselves. We take our vehicles to a mechanic for checkups and/or repairs. Our relationships are much more important. I didn't think there was problem in my relationship. I found out that a relationship expert can point out issues that if worked on, can add spice and increase joy in all phases of my relationship.
Thank you Mary Pender Greene.
E.D. -Brooklyn NY

Testimonial: Couples Workshop

My husband and I were both packed and heading out the door when we came to the workshop in the fall...we attended all of the workshops and did all of the suggested reading and writing. It has really helped a lot, we are still together and looking forward to a future together and the next workshop. We both really thought that the relationship was hopeless and were surprised when your tips and techniques helped us to improve both our communication skills and our relationship. Thank you so much. You really helped us to find a way to remain together and begin to enjoy each other.
Sarah and Jake - NYC

Testimonial: Couples Workshop

Mary "kept it real" in both the couples and women's only sections of her workshop series” Making Love Last;" sharing snapshots of her 20+ years of expertise. My partner and I related to the material and we have incorporated some of her suggestions into our relationship. There is no doubt we have seen the passion, trust and connection blossom! As an individual I have been able to hold onto the concept of being and bringing a full ("fat") me into a relationship, instead of a half ("skinny") me hoping to be filled. I feel I'm a better individual and partner because of it!
S. –Westchester NY

Testimonial: Pastor’s View on Pre-Marital Counseling and Professional Advise

As a pastor I am called on to provide pre-marital counseling for couples who are starting that wonderful journey of Holy Matrimony. Most of the couples that come before me have ideas and insights as to the reality of marriage; that it’s not all sunshine and no rain. However, there are those who believe that the feelings they are experiencing today will remain forever. Mary Pender Greene’s workshop on “Making Love Last” helped me to convey the realities of marriage, while at the same time providing couples with the tools to keep the love alive when the fire has diminished.
Mary’s tips on effective communication skills and the need for both parties to be whole individuals before marriage have proven to be invaluable. Mary is a reliable and highly skilled therapist, and she is someone that I call on for personal and professional advice.
Blessed & Pleased in New York

Testimonial: Supervision

The support and guidance that I've received from Mary Pender Greene in clinical supervision has been immeasurable. As Albert Einstein said, "If I have seen further, it is by standing on the shoulders of giants," and Mary is truly a giant when it comes to sharing clinical wisdom. Standing on Mary's shoulders has helped me in more ways than I expected, and I'm so grateful for the ability to see further and more clearly in regards to my clients and me. The Right Supervision Indeed Matters!
-- Soaring In Westchester NY

Testimonial: Career Coaching

I have experienced Ms. Pender Greene as my mentor, my counselor, and my life coach. She has provided me with insight and wisdom far beyond my ability to see.
I have known and admired her from a distance for several years. Eight months ago, I had the opportunity and the privilege to sit with Ms. Pender Greene and seek guidance and coaching around my career. After our initial consultation, it was clear that seeking her counsel was the right choice.
As a young professional, I found myself wondering what the next steps in my career should be. I wanted to grow professionally and had some ideas as to where I wanted to go; however, I was unsure which steps to take. After sitting with Mary I was given guidance and a structure for my career goals. I felt as though I had a road map. With her guidance I was able to plan and take purposeful action toward improving my career.
Within those 8 months I have experienced a life-enhancing shift in my career. My experience with Ms. Pender Greene has been invaluable. Mary is truly gifted in her craft. She has an amazing ability to extract the best you have to offer. I recommend anyone who is serious about improving his or her career to sit with Ms. Pender Greene and be prepared to move forward in life.
-- Moving Onward and Upward In Jersey City

Testimonial: Career Coaching

It’s a great pleasure to wholeheartedly recommend Mary Pender Greene as an exceptional, world-class career coach. Mary is a gem! With a unique perspective that can only come from an in depth knowledge of many spheres, life experience, and a background as a successful executive professional at the highest echelons herself, I truly believe Mary is a rare find.
Mary coaches what she knows in her bones. Her profound understanding of people and personalities, in addition to her unique insight in regards to the nexus of work, power, race and gender puts her in a class of her own. The powerful inter-play of this knowledge allows not only sound analysis of any career related problem, but also a deep insight into personal traits and behaviors that may contribute to the problem’s existence and, by extrapolation, where that might spill over to impact personal relationships. I enjoy my sessions with Mary because I grow from each and every one. And far from being all doom and gloom, we laugh a lot too!
Mary delivers on what she says. Her style is clear, direct and without drama.
Navigating the road to ultimate success would be much more difficult without a trusted and experienced guide. Mary is my ally in simplifying the process of being a leader, creating ease and fashioning strategy that gets me to where I want to go.
Without a doubt, the complexity of the work world is dwarfed with Mary as my career coach. I move forward with absolute confidence, empowered by her wisdom.
Cracking the Corporate Code Up-Town

Testimonial: Life and Career Coaching

The day I met Mary, I had already spent 16 years in the New York State prison system and 31/2 post-release years adjusting to a world vastly different from the one I left as a sixteen year old. I had traveled the long arduous road from street violence, maximum security prisons and years of destructive self-hate that consumes so many young black men to reach Mary’s office that fateful afternoon 3 years ago. It was a meeting that changed my life and re-kindled my spirit.
I, however, was not very hopeful when I met Mary. I had been frustrated by the redemptive process and stymied by the pejoratives associated with being a formerly incarcerated young black male. Although, I was a Social Work student in a well regarded graduate program and had been trouble free since my release, my conviction history stood as a mountainous obstacle to my career aspirations.
Amazingly, Mary recognized my internal and external struggles within moments after we began to speak. Her keen insight and unique ability to connect to others helped, over time, to pushed back the shadowing sense of disillusionment and tendrils of despair that had crept into my psyche. Mary’s incomparable understanding of people and systems helped me to chart career and life courses that have been intensely rewarding. Mary has helped me find my voice and sense of a place in the professional world. In doing so, she helped me access a world I had begun to think was inaccessible.
Glowing with a Second Chance – Queens NY

Testimonial: Life and Career Coaching

Mary is clear, balanced and objective as she keeps you, your career goals and the myriad of possibilities in mind. She is skilled in the art of nuance, sensitive to what a person and his/her environment brings to a situation and able to assist in getting the best personal and professional result. Mary is the consummate motivator, giving validity to real life struggles around race, class, culture and gender, while never losing focus or cutting corners by helping you to keep your “eyes on the prize.” Sometimes we create the barriers and sometimes there are barriers within systems. I could always count on Mary to help me suss out the root(s) of the barriers -- create internal and/or external systems to circumvent or eliminate them – in order to more readily reach my goals. There is no other like her!
Successful in Manhattan

Testimonial: MPG Organizational Consulting

My experience with the MPG consulting group originated with their selection as organizational consultants for the agency at which I am employed. Unfavorable audits had caused our organization to become vulnerable to sanctions and possible closing.
The audit revealed capacity development needs along a wide range of front line and supervisory practices, coupled with needs in the application of continuous quality assurance systems and organizational design.
Mary brought her team of highly capable administrators and practitioners with expertise in mental health, social services, systems and policy. She made them directly accessible to staff through a responsive mix of training, coaching, groups and case presentations. Additionally, agency business process systems, human resources and QA practices were all impacted. As an executive team we were challenged to define and demonstrate a clear set of values and be guided as much by clinical insight as by the urgency of regulatory compliance. The agency is a richer and stronger for its experience with the MPG Consulting.
-- Grateful in the Bronx

Testimonial: MPG Organizational Consulting

We are Faculty members of The Women’s Institution. We are an organization committed to recognizing the power of culture to impact us individually and collectively. We are activists as well as therapists/analysts and had long realized the lack of racial and cultural diversity in our own institution as a problem. We formed a Diversity Committee to further educate ourselves through reading, going to workshops, attending the Undoing Racism program, and to explore ways to bring greater diversity, particularly women of color, to our organization as incoming students, as well as in leadership positions. Expanding our course content about diversity was easy. However, diversifying our faculty and student body was far more difficult.
Thus, we began consulting with Mary Pender Greene for guidance in this process. We came hoping for referrals of students of color. She gave that and so much more. She was consistently informative, offering different ways to approach enrollment, for example, to think about making conditions ripe for Women of Color. She shared her analysis of difficult situations we brought to her regarding teaching in addition to what might be pitfalls for us to be concerned about for Women of Color.
Her explanation of the vicissitudes of institutional racism has been educational and applicable in our process of growth. She gave her energy, expertise, wisdom and patience in moving us along and broadening our approach. Over the years diversity in our student body has increased as well as diversity on our Faculty and Board. We are grateful for Mary’s indispensable role in helping us achieve our goals and look forward to further work with her.
-- Delighted at a Diversified Institution in Manhattan

Testimonials: WEBINAR: The Fundamentals of Building & Growing a Private Psychotherapy Practice

A plethora of much needed and extremely helpful information. Thank you so much! John C – Washington DC
Timely, just what I need to expand my practice, I will be signing up for your 1 hour consultation. Hannah – Jersey City, NJ
Mary’s webinar on the fundamentals of building and growing a private practice was extremely useful to me. I now have an understanding of how and why I need to access additional support to get my business growing! Thanks Mary! Safira- NYC
As a therapist starting out in the world of private practice, I found the information shared to be helpful in preparing me well for my journey ahead. Mary is a warm, calm and experienced person who talked through this process without evoking feelings of being overwhelmed. At the close of the webinar, I felt that there was much for me to do, such as, developing a network of referrals, sending my private practice profile to colleagues to review (VBOD) and thinking critically about the ways in which I can market myself by identifying needs of the community that are not being met by other therapists. I felt empowered and motivated me to move forward with much enthusiasm! Sandra J. - Inspired in CT
The webinar was thorough, informative, concise and very helpful. I particularly enjoyed your presentation style because it felt like I was sitting in front of you in person. – Gena J.

Testimonial: Media

Mary Pender Greene has made several appearances on Internet radio show. Most of our listeners have commented on how much they enjoy the excellent insight and helpful information she provides on our different show topics. She states that her mission is to help us have a better relationship with ourselves and she delivers on her mission. That's why we welcome her back whenever her schedule permits as our relationship expert.
Producer/Host, Philadelphia PA